Mention unfaithfulness in a marriage and more then likely your thoughts will focus on sexual relationships. Yet over 50% of divorces are not at all related to sexual unfaithfulness but rather financial unfaithfulness. In today’s debt ridden society, the face of unfaithfulness is financial and divorces are happening much more repeatedly as a result of uncovered financial secrets. More often then not, women are financially unfaithful compared to men however financial unfaithfulness is wide ranging and will annihilate a marriage as quickly as sexual unfaithfulness.

Young married couples and debt are common however, they also form a cocktail for marital ruin. Often with a young married couple, one of the partners will hide certain financial things to prevent confrontations and getting help. As soon as the unfaithfulness begins, it usually does not stop until it hits the point of no return. At this point, financial debts become too big to hide and either the partner will reluctantly bring it up or the other partner will discover it on their own, which will bring with it feelings of great frustration, bitterness and often is the beginning of the end for the marriage, especially if professional help is not seeked out immediately.

Men seem to be less apt to handle the financial unfaithfulness then women and when it is discovered that their spouse has been financially unfaithful then a battle will often begin. So what is a young married couple to do to avoid this disaster?

Be accountable to one another and help each other prepare and maintain a budget. When only one spouse has their hand in control of the cookie jar, temptation can often cause for the hand to dip in more then its fair share. This can often start out innocently but quickly grows into a problem while the other partner sits by innocently unaware of the financial burden that is starting.

If a young couple is set on only having one person in control of the budget, that is fine however it is wise to site together once every week and review the income and expenses and allow for open questions and answers. This will provide that additional step of accountability that is often more then enough to keep the temptation of financial unfaithfulness at bay.

Marital problems that are caused from a lack of financial maturity do cause many best friends to become bitter enemies and in any marriage, it can certainly be the brutal destruction of the foundation for which it stands. If you are hiding financial problems from your spouse, come clean with them immediately and seek out financial guidance. If you are not sharing the budget responsibly currently, then start.

Marriage Guidance and Divorce Prevention Advice for Young Couples at http://www.marriage-and-family.com

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“Marriage relationships are similar to learning to ride a
bicycle as a kid.”

Marriage is like a gift;the easiest part of marriage
relationships is opening it by saying, “I do.” I once heard
someone say at a ceremony, “The wedding is now over, but the
marriage has just begun!” Now that you are in this new chapter
of your life, believe it or not, it has just begun.

Everytime I’d hop on that bike, I’d make it a few feet and fall
off. When I first got married, our relationship seemed this way
also. We’d set of on our journey, our differences would clash,
and trivial arguments would erupt. You probably know what I
mean. Ones like - “why didn’t you put the toilet seat down?
Where is the cap for the toothpaste? I thought you said you’d
take out the trash? blah, blah, blah, blah, Are you listening to
me?”

As a kid, I really was serious about learning to ride that bike,
but a decision had to be made. Was I strong enough to not give
up until I could ride?, or was I gonna take the easy way out and
say “riding bikes isn’t for me!”. You’ve got to make these same
decisions after you’ve said “I do”. Will you keep going and work
through your differences? Or will you say “let’s get a
divorce!”.

Know that all marriage relationships have good and bad days.
Great marriages relationships just work at producing more good
days than bad ones.

We often look at other marriage relationships and measure our
progress or lack of it based on what other people have or don’t
have. What’s misleading about this is that we base our
judgements from what we see on the outside, rather than
knowledge from inside their lives. Sadly, we walk away and try
to pattern our lives after what we’ve seen but, not understood.

I’ll be the first to tell you, watching what Tom and Betsie do,
and trying to act out this same thing between you and your mate,
will only increase problems in your marriage relationship. Why?
simply because you are trying to measure your marriage by
someone else’s standard. You have a totally different man/women
in your life, create your own standards by learning what you
both want in your marriage, then work by those standards. If you
don’t do this, get ready for a long, troublesome, frustrating
journey.

In riding a bike, you need to learn balance to stay upright, and
you need to pedal to move foward in the direction you wish to
go. When these two work together, the result is a great
breathtaking ride.

In marriage relationships, you also need forward, positive
momentum, and balance. The wonderful things you do that pleases
each other, builds passion and increases attraction (momentum),
while learning more about each other and creating an environment
for each of you to personally grow, gives balance.

Since there are also many things that decreases passion (slows
momentum/love busters) and creates imbalance, both of you must
constantly work at pedaling and balancing to build a great
marriage (great ride).

Using those training wheels gave me an opportunity to learn how
to balance and pedal at the same time. After I’d gotten more
comfortable coordinating the two, my dad took the training
wheels off and helped me to move without them.

As married couples, because this is often new to us, creating
balance and building

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Do not use what you find on your cheating spouse as ammunition for revenge. Sure, you may have wonderfully violent fantasies of what you would really like to do to him/her and the other person. This is very normal. But, don’t act them out.

Using what you find to extract revenge will only lengthen the time of pain and anger. It will undermine your integrity as a person, lower your personal standards and make you exceedingly unattractive.

Resist the temptation to sling the mud!

Keep what you find to yourself.

The obvious signs of a cheating spouse disturbed you. You spy because the truth will set YOU free. The quickest cleanest way to break free from the extramarital affair is to set your focus on you as you navigate your way through the difficult weeks and months.

The sooner the two of you can face each other, without outside input or influence, the better off you and the relationship will be.

There usually is no reason to share new found information about cheating husbands or cheating wives with family, friends, children or the spouse of the other person. A concern about sexually transmitted diseases or health risks might be an exception. If it is important to share such information, do so without much fanfare or drama.

And of course, if you pursue legal action, any information obtained through spying might be helpful to your attorney. Some “evidence” does carry weight in particular states or districts.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: www.break-free-from-the-affair.com

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After the wedding ceremony is carried out, every one that needs to has said their I do’s, the confetti has been thrown and the carriage arrives to take the bride and groom away, the bride and groom head of to the wedding reception to meet the guests, of course the guests from the ceremony are all going but some people only attend the reception. The ceremony is more for family than friends. So once you arrive at the reception what happens then? A party!

The wedding reception is where the entertainment and the food is, no doubt the newly weds will be starving after the nerves and the shock of getting married has worn of. The reception is a great time for friends and family to get to know each other as well they are all one big circle of family and need to get along, for your sake! The wedding reception then starts of with a speech, a toast, some food and then the entertainment. The food can either be hot plate served or it can be hot and cold buffet style dinner whatever you choose is loved by all guests, no doubt the happily married couple will be starving after the shock of marriage and the release of the nerves. After everyone has eaten and admired their wedding favors and the special gifts have been handed out to the members of the guests that have played a special part in the wedding the entertainment starts. The entertainment is usually a DJ or a live band, sometimes though couples get really creative and go for a magician or even a comedian. Keeping the guests entertained is a great part of the wedding as it makes you feel good to know that everything that you have done has made all these people happy.

The wedding reception is the most favourable part of any wedding, the ceremony is usually boring and the guests are glad to get off to the reception to have a good time. The wedding reception is another type of celebration of your marriage. The next celebration which is undoubtedly the best is the honey moon which you will no doubt enjoy thoroughly!

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